Never discover who you are. Decide.

Who do you want to be and what do you want to achieve from 2022?

Big questions deserve big answers. Big answers need time, time for you to discover the answers.

Where will you discover the answers?

From you and from others – those close to you. Sometimes we need to be guided. By meditation or a mentor / coach.

Let’s start with you. What three words describe your highest or ‘best’ self? These are the words you would want someone to describe you as – both personally and professionally.

For me I would describe myself as my best version when playful, energised and curious.

Some others to prompt your own exercise – warm, loving, impactful, dedicated, focused, grateful, engaged, motivated, courageous, brave, thoughtful.

Use these as a reminder to guide you on your life and how to act. Make them visual on a post it note or whiteboard then ensure it is visible, display them somewhere you will see them on a regular basis.

Check in on them during the day to ensure you are aligned to them.

Be intentional about your aspirations rather than focusing on what may feel the most practicably achievable. Otherwise you will always play small. When I am making decisions I ask “Is this what a playful, energised and curious version of you do?” There may be times when I need to compromise but in the main I seek out goals that result in a YES to that question.

Why would I have a goal or aspiration that isn’t aligned to my ‘best’ version. When you are in alignment to your authentic self, you will bring more joy into your life. It is a practice though.

If I don’t feel energised in my daily life, I identify how I can adapt my lifestyle to adjust my energy levels. It may be a once off slump or could be a funk. I am in control of deciding how I want to feel and, therefore, the actions to take to realign to my authentic self.

Instead of discovering who you are, you become powerful when you decide who you are. Actively generate the emotions that you most want to feel by doing things in line with you vision of the person you want to be.

How do you find out the person you want to be if you don’t know?

Most of us have always known but we have forgotten.

1.       Think back when you were a kid – what would you spend all day doing? How did it make you feel?

2.       Ask three people who you are in close contact with what three words they would describe you as?

3.       Seek out a coach or mentor who will guide you to discover your strengths, those qualities that make us who we are. We should play to our strengths.

4.       Meditate. Sit in silence and ask yourself the question from above: What three words describe your highest or ‘best’ self? Sometimes we need silence to hear the whisper from within.

How do you make it a practice?

Each day, start the day with setting an intention for how you want to feel that day and show up. This will from your inner dialogue, guide you throughout the day to be used as an anchor to bring you back to you when life gets in your way.

Remember - Set an intention and watch as more joy floods into your life as you align to your ‘best’ self.